Can I hold your baby…?

Wowzer I didn’t realise it had been so long since my last post!!! However I don’t want to just write for the sake of writing, it needs to be something that resonates with me and that I find funny or am passionate about. I am planning on doing a review of our Dubai hotel because it was just incredible and so family friendly, but I need to dedicate some time to it.

In the meantime I wanted to do a quick one on something that came up A LOT in Dubai…..random people asking to hold Beau. What is that about?? This first happened to me back in August when we went to the New Forest for our wedding anniversary. We were staying at an amazing little hotel/pub called the Huntsman of Brockenhurst, it had recently been renovated and they had these gorgeous little boutique rooms,  conveniently located a very short walk from the pub!

One afternoon we were enjoying their pub garden where there were lots of families and started chatting to one group who had been at a local fair all day with their kids. After spending some time with them we realised they were hammered, there’s no other way to describe it, they were completely battered! While Mr H was at the bar one of the dads asked to hold Beau, it was the strangest moment, I didn’t know what to do, this man was clearly drunk and asking me to hand over the most precious thing in my life; my 6 month old baby. I haven’t really told anyone about this because I was embarrassed about what I did next, so please don’t judge me, but I handed him over!! Can you believe that? If you had asked me about this scenario prior to it happening I would have said that I would tell the person to get lost! But I didn’t.  I thought I was upfront, straight talking and ballsy but instead of politely saying no, I handed over my baby!! When Mr H returns from the bar he’s immediately giving me the ‘what the fuck is going on here?’ eyes, why is this random drunk man holding our son? I’m sure the guy sensed the tension and seemed to hand Beau over pretty sharpish- it may have been because I was standing so close or that Mr H was about ready to launch himself at him, I couldn’t be sure.

Since this episode no-one has asked to hold my baby…. until Dubai, actually no one asked me, they asked Mr H, and always when he was alone! Three times in one week he was asked ‘can I hold your baby?’ And he said yes every time!! One time was even in the pool!! What is wrong with people? And what is wrong with us? If a stranger asked me if they could try on my engagement ring I’d tell them to do one, but with our baby we hand him over in a heartbeat.

We’ve discussed this together at length since, and have agreed that during that time of being asked and actually handing him over, our brains froze with thoughts of, will they run off? will they dunk him in the pool? will they drop him? Oh the horror. Yet still we let them hold our baby…through fear of offending someone! We’re not the shy type or afraid of saying what we think yet this scenario has us both baffled!

We haven’t yet discussed this with any other parents, so have no idea if this normal or if other people agree to it or are we just a complete pair of wet wipes? Please let us know.

One Reply to “Can I hold your baby…?”

  1. Loving this post and I can completely relate to this – but in a pregnant way. When I was preggers so many complete RANDOMS would just rub my bump. Made me feel really uncomfortable and i just wish my sickness was there at that moment in time so I could just puke all over them instead 🙂

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